I’ve been a stepmom for over five years. It is a role that isn’t for the faint of heart.
When I felt lost and alone, I found a few resources to be helpful.
- StepMom Magazine- I purchased a year subscription to the magazine as a place to learn and absorb tips and tricks that might work for me. Every stepmom’s story is unique and important.
- Therapy- I found a new therapist as I had outgrown my previous one. I was in need of additional support as a looming custody change was about to occur. I have been to therapy many times through my life and it has proven to bring out my resilience and grit.
- Find Community- I am a proud member of a Greek sorority and my sisterhood and relationships stretch across the country. I found two women that are also stepmoms and although our situations differ in many ways, they are similar too. I have celebrated Stepmom’s Day with them for the past two years on a video call as we are living in different states. We try to meet every few months to offer support, share stories and remind ourselves that we GET to be stepmoms. We have a unique role that’s different than the child’s parents. How beautiful is it that we get to define our role and how we show up for our stepkid(s).
If I could tell other stepmoms one thing, it’s hang in there. It’s worth the drama and heartbreak. You can rise above challenges and be there for your stepkid. You get to control what you think, say and do. There are resources and people willing to help you along this journey, you just have to ask. I have found my community and peace as I continue to evolve as a stepparent. I’m learning along the way. No matter what, one thing stays true, I show up for my stepkid. He knows I love him and want the best for him and to keep him safe when Dad isn’t there. I am an extension of his Dad. You’ve got this stepmom, now go out there and live the fulfilling life you deserve.